Seriously, why does mom guilt have to be a thing? And why is it so horrible and upsetting? Some of you know I ended up in the ER last week after a trip to my primary care doctor for a headache that has been lingering for about 4 weeks. I’ve never had a history of headaches and there is no family history of them, so the sudden headaches just raised a red flag. Wednesday morning, I went to the neurologist for the first time thinking it would be no big deal. Well, that was just not the case!! Starting at 1 pm on Wednesday I started 3-4 hour infusions for the next three days. This is definitely not how I wanted to spend the last week of summer! But I know that I have to be at my best to be the best mommy that I can be! At least that is what I am telling myself through these constant tears…..
I’m sure my husband and nurses are walking on eggshells to make sure I don’t lose it in a second and start my breakdown all over again. You may be thinking- “hey, it is just a few days without the girls- no big deal”. Well, they were also gone Thursday-Sunday last week while I was recovering from the ER visit. I REALLY MISS MY GIRLS!!!
So I am starting this mom guilt post with a question: as mommas why do we feel guilty about being away from our kids when we need to take care of ourselves? I personally think I am feeling guilty because it has been so much lately!
On top of the sicknesses- we have my parents, my in laws and my grandparents who want to spend time with them too! And we let them- feel free to judge me on that! Our thought is that their great grandparents and grandparents won’t be around forever nor will our girls want to hang out with them forever, so we as their parents feel like we should let them! I honestly do not know how parents do it without family around to help! We are so fortunate and will be forever grateful.
Next, let’s talk about playing with our kids. I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t sit down and give them my undivided attention as much as I probably should. Sometimes, cleaning the house, dishes, laundry or whatever else needs to be done around the house seems more important. But is it really?? They’re not going to be little forever and want to play with mommy forever, I really am going to make a conscious effort to work on this. The house can be dirty after bedtime! I need to live in the moment with them and enjoy every second.
How do you mommas feel about doing crafts with your kids? Brynlee asks for a craft at least 3-4 times a day. I love doing them, but come on Millie Cate- do you really have to eat the paint? Don’t get me started on Play-Doh- a man invented Play Doh, I’m sure of it! And Play-Doh is another thing that is constantly asked for!
Sorry, this post has been so rambly and might not make much sense- I just really needed to write it out and get it off my chest for myself!
I never knew that I could love two little people and their daddy like I love them, and sometimes it just makes you a basket case and I’ve decided that it is OKAY! I just can’t wait for them to come home Saturday morning- we have a fun weekend planned with them!
Do you deal with mom guilt? Any tips you can share? PLEASE tell me I’m not alone!